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Whether you call it overcommitting, accommodating behaviour, self-sacrificing, or people-pleasing, it all results in a feeling of frustration and overwhelm. This month's article uncovers how people-pleasing relates to your time(or lack of it).
People pleasing and time management are closely connected because the desire to please others often leads to over-committing, poor prioritization, and difficulty setting boundaries—all of which negatively impact time efficiency and effectiveness. I understand this because I am a recovering people pleaser and a significant reason for being a time management coach. So, if you identify as a people pleaser, have a read to learn how this behaviour can show up in your life and then what positive action steps to take today.
Here are some ways they relate:
Overcommitment: People pleasers tend to say "yes" to many requests, even when their schedules are already full. Overcommitment can lead to too many tasks and insufficient time, causing burnout and inefficiency(not using our resources well, like time).
Lack of Boundaries: When people are afraid to say "no," they allow others to dictate how their time is spent. This makes it difficult for them to focus on important tasks, as personal priorities are constantly put on hold by others' demands.
Distraction from Core Goals: People pleasers often focus on fulfilling others' needs rather than their own. However, it's important to remember that true validation comes from within. By focusing on personal growth and work objectives, you can avoid losing focus on your goals and wasting time on less important tasks. This can leave you feeling more inspired and less frustrated.
Ineffective Prioritization: Balancing what should be done versus what others want you to do becomes challenging. However, with clear prioritization, you can feel a sense of accomplishment as you focus your energy on tasks that provide long-term benefits for yourself. This sense of accomplishment can inspire you to continue this effective time management strategy.
Stress and Burnout: The constant pressure to please everyone leads to mental fatigue and stress, reducing productivity. Worrying about others' opinions further detracts from focusing on the task at hand and overall well-being.
Action Steps:
intentionally schedule your week
time block your peak performance time and use it
role-play situations where you need to say "no."
set time aside for friends and family
prioritize effectively by only having 1-2 goals
This process will bring you relief and empowerment to optimize your time.
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